The Energy of Play

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

With summertime now in full bloom, I’ve noticed myself naturally attuning to a more relaxed, light-hearted energy within and around me. Especially here in Minnesota, the long, warm summer days and lush, green landscapes bring a sense of ease coupled with the natural excitement of new growth.

There’s a playful atmosphere with music in the parks, lakeside beaches, and gardens blossoming. But for many adults, including myself, somewhere along the path of “growing up,” we may have traded playfulness for accomplishments and productivity. This can make us feel like playfulness is only a visitor rather than a permanent resident in our day to day lives. Ah, what to do!?

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We each have our own inner, fun-loving kid within us and our own unique sense of what “play” means to us. Whenever we play, it returns us to our full, vibrant, authentic selves. Even if we’re working, bringing a playful energy to our tasks can help lift our spirits. Most people intuitively know it’s important for our wellbeing to make time for fun. But, if your grown-up self needs a bit of convincing about how play can help you, here are a few ways:

• It brings our attention to the present. We can let go of stories of the past or worries about the future, at least for the moment

• We can let go of the pressure to produce an outcome. Rather, we follow our hearts without judgement, and without an expectation to get something “right.”

• Play effortlessly restores a sense of joy and doesn’t need to take a lot of money or time. A few minutes doing what we love can make a difference.

• It clears the emotional aspects of our energy fields, allowing us to release resentments, anger, and fear.

• It helps open the flow of energy within ourselves and among groups. To paraphrase a beloved Energy Healing teacher, Janet Marinelli - when there’s laughter, the energy is flowing.

Next time you find yourself laughing or playing, take a moment to sense what’s happening for you physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. Everyone is different. How does your energy change when you’re doing something you enjoy?

Breaking the Pot

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

I am a notoriously terrible gardener, known for killing all manner of plants without even trying. I always say I'm good at growing kids, not plants.

Once in a while, I get a plant that lives for a long time under my "care." I have one right now that has been alive in my home for at least six years—might be a record! I do repot it once in a while and today was the day. I've done this before, and it was always easy to get it out of the pot and into its new home.

Root bound

But today, when I went to take it out of the pot, it was so root bound that it wouldn't budge.

Break the pot

I had to actually break the pot with a hammer to get it out.

Free to thrive

The dear thing was actually still growing, despite its cramped conditions, but I'm excited to see what it does now that it has lots of space to grow and thrive.

I was sharing these photos with my daughter when it occurred to me that there have been times in my life when I've been root bound, tethered to a situation that no longer allows me to grow and thrive. I had to "break the pot" to leave my first college and transfer to one that was a better fit. I had to "break the pot" to leave a good teaching job for a school that was a better fit for me and my beliefs about kids and teaching. And I had to "break the pot" to leave my long marriage so I could move towards becoming who I am meant to be.

Are there times in your life when you've had to "break the pot"? It's not easy, it can be scary, and there will be some grief about what you've left behind. But sometimes it's necessary for growth. I'd love to hear about your experiences of "breaking the pot." Email me at susan@lifecoachsusantemple.com.

Choosing the Gentle Path

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

One evening last week I found myself faced with the choice of whether to swim as I often enjoy doing, or rest because of some manageable yet persistent joint pain. I chose to rest. This may sound like a simple choice, but it echoed larger energy patterns and led me to see that I needed to take a gentle path not only that night, but in many areas of my life.

Maybe you’ve had an example like this in your life, too - a seemingly small decision where you let go of a plan or agenda when circumstances changed, rather than pushing forward at all costs.

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Taking the gentle path allows us to not only feel immediate relief when we’re tired, in pain, or stressed, but it restores and builds energy for the future. Although energy – or life force – is unlimited, our personal ability to access and use it for our wellbeing changes over time depending on our choices. If we tend to expend a lot of energy through chronic working, busy-ness, and activity, we may not allow ourselves to receive enough in-flow of life force to experience a sense of wholeness, clarity, vibrancy, and health.

This is a life-long lesson for many people, and it takes courage. We may know inside that we need rest and rejuvenation, and yet there are expectations, deadlines, or plans that pressure us to keep going. Choosing the gentle path may mean finding ways to open up a space for the energies of kindness and compassion to surround our actions toward ourselves and others. This may take some creativity and look different for everyone.

What does your gentle path look like today? What restores your life-force, your energy?

May we each find the courage to choose a gentle path today.

Inspiration

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

Have you felt excited to take action in your community, create art, or write in a journal? Or the opposite, felt that you needed or wanted to do something but came up blank? As I sat down to write this article and found myself searching for inspiration, I decided to look deeper into the phenomenon of inspiration itself and share some thoughts on it.

From a holistic perspective, inspiration has physical, spiritual, and mental layers, some of which we may notice more than others. In the body, it can feel like a burst of energy, a sense of aliveness, or feeling of being grounded right where we are. Spiritually, it brings enthusiasm, authenticity, meaningful direction, and connection to the divine or something greater than ourselves. And on a mental level, inspiration creates heightened alertness, imagination, and the ability to focus.

I find it interesting that inspiration can come from both good and bad, pleasant and unpleasant experiences. On the one hand, it’s inspiring to be with people or pets we love, see a beautiful picture, read an interesting book, or follow up on something that piques our curiosity in a positive way. On the other hand, aspects of life or the world that we don’t like, injustices, and feelings of anger or compassion for another’s suffering, can all inspire actions that lead to change.

Once we’re gifted with inspiration, what do we choose to do with it? Taking action right away can be fulfilling and build momentum toward even greater aspirations, if we have time - or ability to make time - to follow our insights. But sometimes it’s not that simple. Other aspects may come into play when deciding what to do with inspiration, including doubts and fears that our ideas aren’t “good enough.” If that happens, we run the risk of ignoring our soul’s calling or feeling stifled. On a practical level, maybe we’re busy with other commitments or don’t have the resources to take action. In that case writing down the idea or taking a picture can capture the spark so that the fire of imagination can be reignited later.

And that leads me to a closing thought - however we find inspiration and whatever we decide to do with it, may it lead us to create or re-create our lives and our world with joy, health, and peace for all.

A Reflection on You

By Debbie Zuckerman, TICC, NBC-HWC, MA
Trauma-Informed, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

Feeling off and out of sorts

Overwhelmed by too many things

Relationships, caregiving, health, world events, work, daily household tasks …

There’s one of you with only so much energy to spare

How can you focus on what’s in your control; recharge and be accountable to yourself?

You absorb others’ emotions and beliefs, but what about your own

It’s time to prioritize yourself, find your truth, sort through all those spiraling thoughts

What’s important to you, what do you love, what strengths have helped you get to this point?

Listen closely … to your inner world, to that part of you that’s wise, compassionate, discerning …

The part that wants to find inner peace, feel confident, and heal

Let that part be your guide when you pay attention inside - the part that lights up when you look up at that eagle in the sky

When you learn to trust you, all of you - emotions and physical sensations as cues

Your mindful insight will surface and be profound

Your fears, try not to judge them, they are there for a reason … what other purpose might they serve?

Is it time to rest, say no to that person and event, let go of that task?

Allow the healthy guilt to pass as a new boundary surfaces

Positive change starts from within; with the help of those around you who are safe and truly see you

What if you could find your wellbeing groove …. imagine the possibilities if you embrace the whole of you

My purpose is to help you make that intentional move

Release: Simple ways to free your energy and move through your day

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

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I’ve often heard people describe their energy as “stuck” or “blocked” when they feel something weighing heavily on their mind or in their heart. This sense of being weighed down can show up alongside sadness, fear, or tiredness. It’s common for any of us to feel that our energy level is low, held back, or sluggish from time to time, so thought I’d share a few ideas about it here.  In addition to Healing Touch sessions to restore a natural flow of energy, there many things you can do on your own to release tension in everyday life.

An underlying concept that’s helpful to keep in mind is that energy is neutral, neither good nor bad. Having a sense of neutrality about “stuck” or “blocked” energy can relieve any underlying judgement about it and foster an attitude of compassion and acceptance.  Also, energy cannot be created or destroyed, but sometimes it can be congested in certain areas of the body. I like to compare it to a stream when too many branches and leaves fall into it, or a highway with too many cars. In both cases the flow slows down with an excess of energy in one place.

Knowing this, what can you do when your energy feels tightly bound? Below are four ways to free it up. Everyone is unique; I invite you to be curious and experiment with these, modifying them to fit your needs.

• Engage your muscles or your spirit: Take a walk or listen to your favorite music. It doesn’t have to be for a long time, even a few minutes can make a difference. Either of these actions can build momentum - physically or spiritually - and shift you into a higher level of energy to move forward with your day. Doing both together can multiply the benefit.

• Use your hands: Sense where you feel “stuck” or “blocked” in your body - perhaps it’s your shoulders, chest or belly. Place one or both hands gently on that area with an intention of warmth and kindness. Allow a few minutes for the muscles to soften and tension to be released.

• Breathe: Using the ever-available power of your breath, imagine that you are breathing in and out the place in your body where you feel unease or heaviness. Then picture your breath flowing through your entire body and out into the space about 1-3 feet around you. This can be done with eyes open or closed anytime you have a moment to be quiet, whether you’re alone or in public.

• Shake it off! Literally, stand up and move your arms, legs, or whole body for a minute or even just a couple seconds. Try doing this a few times, resting in between, then see how you feel.  Shaking is one of the body’s natural ways of discharging excess energy and restoring a sense of ease and balance.

Did you find one that works for you? You’ll know it if you feel a bit more uplifted in your outlook, able to move through your day, or lighter in your body or soul. Still needing help to release what feels “stuck” or “blocked”? We’re here for you. Find support by scheduling a Healing Touch, Vocal Healing, Tapping, Coaching, Somatic Experiencing, or Therapy session.

Look Within to Achieve Intentional Goals

By Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

Can you think of something you do on a routine basis that comes naturally and without hesitation? You feel motivated to do it because it has a purpose. It’s meaningful to you. Here are some possible activities to help you brainstorm: 

• Petting your dog or cat

• Going on a walk

• Volunteering

• Cooking or baking

• Visiting with a friend

• Spending time with your child or partner

• Reading

• Meditating

• Cleaning/organizing  

• Mowing the lawn

• Decorating 

• Starting or completing a house/work project

It doesn’t have to cost money, but if it does that works too! Once you have something in mind (feel free to write it down), reflect on the following questions:

1. How and why is it important to you? (VALUES)

2. What skills do you use to make it happen? (STRENGTHS)

3. What do you like/love about it? (PASSIONS)

VALUES + STRENGTHS + PASSIONS = PURPOSE AND MEANING >

INTENTIONAL SMART GOALS > DESIRED CHANGE

If you are able to answer all three questions, then it most likely has meaning and purpose for you. When an activity has more meaning, your motivation to accomplish tends to be higher, leading to desired change. 

Now, think of a change you desire in your personal or professional life. In order to achieve a meaningful change, it is essential to set an intentional goal that is realistic for you to pursue. A goal with purpose that keeps you motivated. How might you create a SMART goal to support your desired change using the formula above and answering questions 1-3? Once you have established your intention and purpose, how you get there will be aligned with your values, strengths, and passions. This approach will keep you motivated to take the next step and beyond toward your desired change. 

To learn more, receive coaching support, and gather effective resources to set and achieve intentional SMART goals that support your desired changes (personal and professional), schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com.

Snow...an Invitation to Accept Complexity

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

Looking outside after a recent snowfall, I noticed my thoughts went first to the logistical challenges of driving and how much extra time I’d need to get to my destination. But as I gazed a little longer, I started to be curious about the healing properties of snow. After all, it’s made of water just like rain, which is known for it’s soothing and cleansing qualities. So how about snow?

Image by Franz Bachinger

Depending on our age, life experience, or plans for the day, a snowy morning can bring a wide array of emotions. Kids might become especially joyful to play outside in the fluffy white wonderland, and skiers may delight in rushing down the slopes. Others might be wary of falling on the ice or feel bogged down with shoveling.

Whatever our initial reactions, a fresh snowfall offers opportunities to support our personal healing as well as the well-being of our environment. Because it contains the entire color spectrum, the color white can symbolize the spiritual concepts of wholeness and possibilities – concepts that help build a sense of meaning and hope in life. And noticing how it covers the entire landscape in a pristine blanket of brilliant light can bring feelings of calmness, appreciation, and awe. Looking at it from a broader perspective, the sparkling reflection from snow balances the entire energy of the Earth. According to the National Snow and Ice Data Center, it helps keep the planet cool by reflecting solar energy back into space.

By combining these healing properties with the realities of shoveling, driving, and icy sidewalks, perhaps snow is a reminder to open up to the complexities of our world. Rather than seeing it as all good or all bad, maybe there’s a hidden message in snow, asking us to cherish the uplifting aspects of life while doing the work needed to address the challenges we face.

Finding Relief Through Guided Imagery

By Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

Do you have a safe and comforting place you can go to calm and reset your nervous system when feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Perhaps you have a physical location at home, work, or in your community where you can retreat. Maybe it’s a coffee shop, gym, grocery store, lake, ocean, cabin, mountain, skating rink, wellness center, pickleball court, or place of prayer.  

What if you had access to a safe and comforting mindfulness retreat, 24/7, that does not require travel or a financial investment? 

The good news is that if you are reading this, then you do! It’s just a matter of unlocking it! 

Guided imagery is key to satisfying our human need for safety, calm, and peace. This mindful practice that integrates your imagination, breath, and senses, is intended to alleviate emotional, mental, and physical discomfort. As a mind-body practice, it gives you the freedom to practice anywhere for any amount of time. You can choose to listen to a guided imagery meditation led by someone else, read a script, or guide yourself.

Guided imagery is an evidence-based complementary therapy and meditation practice that can be beneficial for managing symptoms related to chronic health conditions, including anxiety, depression, PTSD, irritable bowel syndrome, fibromyalgia, and rheumatoid arthritis. It can also help during preoperative care and with pain management. 

Guided imagery can also support behavioral change around lifestyle habits, emotional regulation (intelligence), and cognitive reframing. For example, if you have a fear of going to the dentist, it can be used during an actual dental procedure. If falling asleep is challenging, a little guided imagery can go a long way to relax your body and mind, and help you drift into sleep sooner. You can also use guided imagery to effectively accomplish goals related to nutrition and exercise through visualization. Athletes, performers, and speakers use it to prepare themselves before an event. 

Like other mindfulness practices, guided imagery can be used personally and professionally to improve one’s overall sense of wellbeing.

Once you get the hang of it, there is no right or wrong way to practice guided imagery. With practice and patience, you can learn to trust your imagination and inner wisdom to lead you to intentional outcomes like finding peace, calm, confidence, motivation, healing, and goal attainment. I like to think of guided imagery as a ‘mini-vacation’ to reset your nervous system. I also equate it to drinking water throughout the day to stay properly hydrated and energized, while flushing out all the ‘stuff’ in your system you no longer need. 

To learn more and receive coaching support and effective resources for your guided imagery practice, schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com.

What Do You Need Right Now?

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

Maybe you are feeling a sense of heaviness right now. I know I am. It’s a challenging time of year for many, with the darkness and the cold. Events in the world seem ever more chaotic and frightening. So, what do you need right now?

We hear a lot about self-care, and if you spend any time on social media, it can seem that self-care means dermaplaning your face, having your nails done, and getting a Brazilian blowout (what is that anyway?). There is nothing wrong with taking care of your body or making yourself feel beautiful in the ways that work for you. But the self-care that can make a real difference in your level of contentment in life is something deeper.

Deep self-care involves slowing down, maybe even sitting down, and just being with your thoughts and feelings. Allowing what is true for you right now to come to the surface. Asking yourself, “What do you need right now?” 

Here are some other practices that can help you practice deep self-care:

• Practice noticing how you feel under different circumstances. How do you feel if you spend 20 minutes scrolling Instagram? How do you feel when you spend time with certain people? How do you feel if you spend a lot of time alone? The answers will be unique to you. When I first began living alone after my divorce, I discovered that if I went more than three days without in-person contact with people I care about, I started to feel depressed. So, I set up my life to make sure I saw people regularly. Other people might thrive with lots of alone time, so they might need to create that in their life.

• Practice acknowledging yourself daily. Use a journal to write down three things every day that you’d like to acknowledge yourself for. Acknowledge yourself for any baby step forward, for any self-care, for anything you’ve done or even thought that leans toward life and health and hope. When I first started regularly exercising, I felt overwhelmed at the prospect. So, I told myself that I’d go the Y and ride the recumbent bike for five minutes three times a week, and call it a win. I wrote it on my calendar and in my acknowledgment journal every time I did it. That five minutes slowly got longer and longer, and soon I had a habit going.

• Practice asking for help. This can be a hard one for many people. We want to be independent, we don’t want to be a burden, we want to show that we can handle things. But remember how good it feels to help and support someone you love? Give that gift to others. Let them help you.

• Practice consciously choosing activities that nourish you. I don’t mean that you have to schedule every day with perfection. Just practice choosing one activity a week that you know will feed your soul and make you feel better. Maybe it’s seeing a certain someone, maybe it’s listening to music, or moving your body, or making art, or playing a sport, or sitting in a cozy coffee shop and dreaming.

And that guilt about taking care of yourself while others are suffering? Let it go. You are no good to anyone if you don’t take care of yourself. Take care of yourself, and you can be one of the helpers.

Turning Down the Power of Pain

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

Whether you have a sore hip, shoulder, knee, or some other type of physical discomfort, pain can be draining emotionally and mentally. It can often limit daily activities and even influence life choices. If you’ve experienced this, I can relate to you because I’ve been there. For several years, chronic pain made it difficult to do things I enjoy, like taking a walk, dancing, and swimming. After trying several ways to address it, I found Healing Touch. It helped reduce the power that pain held in my life on physical, mental, and emotional levels, and continues to soothe flare-ups. And that’s one reason why I’m passionate about sharing it with others. 

Pain can be triggered for many reasons, such as an illness, injury, or trauma. Whether you recently had surgery or cancer treatment, or if you’re a trauma survivor, several research studies have found that Healing Touch can help reduce pain you as you recover.  

Through light touch on the body and in the energy field surrounding it, Healing Touch takes a gentle, holistic approach and is complementary to any other methods you may be using to manage pain. It restores the flow of subtle energy to the affected area, which is often constricted as our bodies naturally attempt to protect us from pain by tightening the muscles or holding a certain posture. From there, Healing Touch techniques can be used to treat the entire body, as well as the mind and spirit, acknowledging that many factors may be contributing to pain and bringing them into harmony energetically. 

Most clients experience deep relaxation during Healing Touch sessions, which allows greater blood flow to major muscle groups and eases tension. Another theory for how Healing Touch improves chronic pain is that it changes the sensory dynamics of the brain. According to this model, chronic pain is related to maladaptive ways that the brain perceives the painful body parts. Oppositely, techniques such as Healing Touch initiate beneficial changes within the brain by treating the entire body, guiding the person’s focus to non-painful areas through gentle touch. This broadens and changes how the brain experiences the body as a whole and contributes to pain reduction. 

If you’re curious about how Healing Touch could help you, or want to learn more, I’d be glad to talk with you. Sign up for a free Energy Exploration session, or email me at allisondawnenergyhealing@gmail.com 

Real-Time Survival Mode

By Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

As I write, tens of thousands are experiencing the trauma of loss of property, community, and safety due to the fires in California. They are in sheer survival mode, focused on basic needs like shelter, food, and water. People may be grieving the loss of loved ones. They may feel emotions like anger, frustration, confusion, shock, anxiety, sadness, overwhelm, and numbness. Like me, you may have loved ones who are going through this nightmare, and may feel helpless as you watch the events on the news or text them endlessly to check in. 

How does one keep their nervous system regulated when life has been turned upside down? How do you make critical and logical decisions when in fight-flight-freeze mode? These are questions I am pondering as I witness my family and Los Angeles county residents go through this unimaginable upheaval. 

In times of suffering, when one’s catastrophic thoughts are actually true, how do you cope? 

What comes to mind is the practice of compassion. Compassion meets suffering where it is and acknowledges the truth of the situation. Consider affirmations such as:

“This is my worst-case scenario coming true, and I will take it one day at a time.” 

“I am suffering and can overcome this.”

“I am not alone in this and have others to help me through.”

Allowing space to validate and feel your emotions can be difficult, yet is also necessary for healing. Energetic connection with one’s community, even if it is physically gone, is essential to well-being and survival. Self-compassion and compassion for others are restorative measures to bring a sense of belonging and grounding in difficult times. 

Breathwork, tapping, healing touch, and other nervous system regulation practices will not reverse the destruction caused by the fires. However, they are reliable, evidence-based tools to help you access inner strength, resilience, and hope during times of outer and inner turmoil. 

To receive coaching support for your emotional and mental well-being during this challenging time, feel free to schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com.

New Year’s Resolutions? Maybe Not.

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

Are you a person who sets resolutions for the new year? If so, how does that usually work out for you? The online forum Medium says that only 8% of Americans follow through on their New Year’s resolutions. 

I often think of New Year’s resolutions as promising yourself to start doing something that is good for you, or to stop doing something that is bad for you. Who can argue with that? So, if  New Year’s resolutions are a good thing, why is it so hard to keep them?

Resolutions tend to be a mind-based plan where you are either going to win or lose. That’s a lot of pressure. By the end of the year, you’ve either done it or you haven’t. For example, a common resolution is “I’m going to get in great physical shape this year.” If you don’t manage to do that, you may notice you are berating yourself, feeling discouraged, and experiencing even less desire to move forward. 

But I think the more important problem with resolutions is that our mind is telling us what is good for us, without checking in with our soul and body. If your mind, soul and body aren’t in alignment with your goal, you will find a lot of objections coming up, and it will be very difficult to move forward. Your soul and body need to feel a deeper why in order to engage in change.

That’s why I prefer intentions to resolutions. Intentions are more about who we choose to be, than what we choose to do. They tend to involve our right brain as well as our left, thus bringing us into alignment. They are kind of like personal values, in that your awareness of your intentions can guide your behavior and decisions.

One way to start thinking about your intentions for the year is to ask yourself these questions:

• Who do I want to be in my life this year?

• How do I want to feel as I move through my days? 

• How do I want to show up in my life this year?

• What do I want to bring to the world this year?

Spend some time with those questions, maybe journaling about them, or talking with a trusted person. Then use your answers to create 2-3 intentions for the year. 

The person who wants to be in great physical shape by the end of the year might set these intentions: 

• I intend to be a person who takes good care of him/herself.

• I intend to feel strong and comfortable in my body.

• I intend to be present in the moment.

Intentions are as unique as you are, and you can set them however you like. They can evolve as the year goes on.

One way to keep your intentions front and center is to create an Intention Journal. Write your intentions in the front of your journal. Then, each day, jot a few notes, noticing what you’ve done to honor your intentions that day.

For the intentions above, a day of notes might look like this:

1. I took a long walk

2. I noticed that I don’t get as tired as I used to

3. I was very present when I met with my friend today

As you can see, this doesn’t have to take much time, but it will keep your mind/body/soul, focused on your intention. It will also help to lessen any negative self-talk, because even when you have days where you didn’t honor all your intentions, you will have a whole journal full other days where you did, to remind you of all your positive steps forward.

Let me know if you want support for setting intentions for the new year, or if you have questions:  susan@lifecoachsusantemple.com

Harmonize with Nature by Taking a Nap

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

As the longest night and shortest day of the year in the northern hemisphere, the winter solstice on December 21st is a nature-based holiday honoring the relationship between light and dark. I appreciate the weeks before and after this special day as a time of inner stillness, when we have the least exposure to one of our greatest sources of energy—the sun. With more darkness, it’s easier to embrace our natural need for rest, allowing our bodies, minds, and spirits to pause. Just as bears hibernate and trees enter an energy-saving mode to survive the winter months, we can become attuned to the subtle power of the season by slowing down.

There are many meditative techniques and self-care actions that can help us move through life at a slower pace, and I’d like to suggest a very simple and practical one—taking a nap! Whether 15 minutes of rest with your eyes closed, or an hour or two of deep slumber in the middle of the day, a winter nap can bring your energy into harmony with the relaxed rhythm of the natural world.

Trauma Healing is a Change Journey

by Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

No matter where you are in your trauma healing journey, it is important to reflect on how far you have come. Recognizing and celebrating the energy, resources, and effort you have put into improving your personal wellbeing is equally as important as actually doing the work. If you have recently begun the process, acknowledging that you have taken the first step can be invaluable for motivation and confidence. 

Know that the path forward is not linear, as change is dynamic and fluid, and naturally comes with ups and downs. See if you can move forward through uncertainty with courage and trust in yourself, the people who support you, and the resources that fuel your growth. Just knowing that change can be challenging fosters resilience and reduces resistance. Surrender to what is true in the moment, so you can make realistic and healthy changes. 

When old or new obstacles arise and goals seem futile, revisit the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that no longer serve you. Put your energy into expanding self-awareness of mind, body, and spirit to access your fears, strengths, values, desires, and aspirations. Become better acquainted with the relationship between your bodily sensations and emotions, and how these parts of you interfere with or nurture the fullness of your breath. 

Practice mindfulness and self-compassion with a focus on nervous system regulation. Regulate, regulate, regulate throughout the day. Each day find something you are grateful for and celebrate what may feel like the smallest achievement to you, but what really is a significant milestone in your healing journey. 

Yes, your inner critic and self-doubt may fight to be heard and knock you down. So, when you notice this happening, fill your cup with more self-compassion, more mindfulness, and nervous system regulation.

Recognize how far you have come and where you want to be. Visualize, draw, or find an image of a bridge or ladder. 

Ask yourself:

• Where am I now, and where do I want to be in a week, three months, one year, and beyond?

• What steps will I take and which tools do I need to get there? 

• What are the supporting goals and resources that I need? 

• What aspects of my life are holding me back and what can I let go of in order to achieve the outcomes I want?

• What obstacles can I anticipate and how do I work through them?

Need help getting started or feeling stuck in the process? I am here to help!

To receive coaching support and wellbeing tools for your trauma healing journey, schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com.

Are You in Liminal Space?

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

Several years ago, I went through a divorce after 30 years of marriage. I felt like all the pieces of my life had been thrown up into the air. My primary relationship was fractured beyond repairing.  I had to sort through the 27 years of life that was stored in the house where we raised our five daughters, and get the house sold.  Relationships with family and mutual friends were uncertain. I moved (twice).  I changed jobs (twice). I needed a series of non-life-threatening surgeries that set me back physically, each time. Financial concerns arose, as now I was solely responsible for all expenses. I was 60 and feeling like I didn’t have a lot of time to rebuild. And most importantly, I didn’t know what this would mean for my daughters and me. What would “family” look like now?

Thinking of my future, I felt like I was staring into an abyss, a completely blank space. I felt a responsibility to myself and to my young adult kids to create some kind of new life, but I had no idea what that could look like. Fear, confusion, grief, and anger were running rampant in my heart and mind.

I know now that I was experiencing what French ethnographer Arnold van Genepp called “liminal space.” The word “liminal” comes from the Greek word, “limen,” which means “threshold.” Liminal space is a period in your life when something is ending, and something new is trying to emerge. You are in between what was, and what will be. Your life is changing, whether or not you planned for it, and whether or not you like it. It can feel extremely uncomfortable, and full of exciting possibility, all at the same time.

You don’t have to have a huge life event like I did to find yourself in liminal space. For some people it can be more internal, just a nagging feeling that something is wrong, that you just know you could be happier or you feel that something is missing.

What I learned from my experience is that I couldn’t navigate it alone. I needed support and guidance to deal with the past, develop self-love and self-trust, and create a life where I feel like me, where I can be content. This does not happen in one or two sessions with a professional.

I sought help from a therapist and others during that time, and I continue to work on my healing and growth in a variety of ways to this day. 

Many of the people who come to me for coaching and tapping (or to any of the practitioners at The Healing House) are in some kind of liminal space. Are you? In my work, I support you as you learn to accept, allow and process all feelings, including the ones that aren’t pretty, or that you’d prefer not to feel. I help you see your own strength and the glimmers of what is possible for you in the next stage of your life. And I am there for you as you take the first steps towards those glimmers, and as you begin to create something new for yourself.

Using Guided Imagery Meditation to Direct a Busy Mind

By Allison Runchey, HTCP

On a busy day, if you find your mind working hard analyzing everything around you, remembering the past, or creating stories about the future, thoughts can seem like race cars zipping this way and that. They can feel like a traffic jam with no direction.

Artist: Aristal Branson

Enter guided imagery: a form of meditation that invites specific images or visual concepts into the mind to foster emotional, mental, or physical well-being. It may include vivid scenes, colors, sounds, or sensations.  Rather than trying to clear the mind, which is challenging since thinking is a natural part of being human, guided imagery gently focuses our thoughts in ways that can relieve stress, increase vitality, and tap into inner wisdom.

Author and meditation teacher Belleruth Naparstek shares key principles about why and how guided imagery works in her book, “Staying Well with Guided Imagery: How to Harness the Power of Your Imagination for Health and Healing.” One core concept is that our bodies respond to images held in our minds as if they were really happening. This is why we often feel hungry after simply seeing a picture of a favorite meal, or we might notice our muscles getting tense when watching a dramatic movie. Another principle discussed is that when we’re in an altered state of consciousness we have a “greater capacity for intense healing, growth, learning, and change” (p. 22). By using a calm, yet active and concentrated awareness, guided imagery draws us into a type of altered state in which we can access an expanded sense of wholeness. A third important aspect is that using guided imagery is a choice, something over which we have control to start, stop, or change at any time. This form of personal empowerment and sense of mastery can, in itself, improve our ability to cope and optimism about the future.

I often incorporate guided imagery into Healing Touch sessions as a way to expand, heal, balance, or release energy. Because energy follows intention, introducing images that align with the client’s vision of health is a powerful force in the healing process. It uses the language of metaphor to go beyond logic and into the realm of intuition, memory, and the soul.  

Nervous System Reset

by Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach

Breathe in through your nose
Hear your breath go in
Shoulders down
Jaw relaxed 
Exhale through your mouth 
Slowly out 

Breath in through your nose
See your fingers
Wiggle your toes 
Relax your brow
Exhale through your mouth 
Slowly slowly out

Breathe in through your nose 
Touch your palm to your chest
Arch your back 
Shake out your legs
Exhale through your mouth 
Slowly slowly slowly out 

Notice the emotions you feel and the thoughts that arose
Be curious. Be kind. Be with it.

Schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com to learn more about mindful moments to reset your nervous system. 

Vocal Sound Healing

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

You have probably heard of, or maybe even experienced, sound healing using singing bowls, gongs, chimes, and other instruments. Maybe you are less familiar with Vocal Sound Healing, also sometimes called “Vocal Toning.”

Vocal Sound Healing uses the human voice to promote healing and well-being. Imagine this: our voices are not just tools for communication; they’re powerful instruments that can bring harmony and healing to our bodies and souls.

Singing or humming creates soothing sounds that resonate through us, aligning our energy and opening our hearts. It’s like a warm embrace for your spirit! Each note carries its own frequency, and these vibrations can help clear out negative energy, relieve stress, and even promote physical healing.

There are many ways this can be done. At The Healing House, I am offering both one-on-one and group Vocal Sound Healing experiences.

Here’s how a one-on-one experience unfolds:

1. Setting the Space: You will lie on a comfortable massage table, fully clothed, in a quiet, dimly lit room. You’ll have pillows and blankets to make you comfortable. The atmosphere is designed to help you relax and feel safe.

2. Intention Setting: We will talk about your intentions or areas you’d like to focus on—whether it's emotional healing, stress relief, or physical healing. This helps me tailor the experience to your needs.

3. Vocal Experience: I will play chimes to begin our session. Then, I will sing a series of short phrases so that you can get used to hearing the music, noticing what you feel in your body, where you feel it, and what it feels like. Then I will use my voice to sing or hum without words, just for you, holding the intention that you have set for yourself. I may also offer periods of silence. 

4. Sound Waves and Vibrations: As the sound fills the space, it creates vibrations that can be felt throughout your body. These vibrations help to release tension, promote relaxation, and stimulate emotional healing. It’s kind of like an energetic massage for your body, mind and spirit.

5. Mindfulness and Presence: Throughout the experience, you’re encouraged to focus on your breath, the sounds, and any sensations that arise in your body. This mindfulness can deepen your connection to yourself and enhance the healing process.

6. Integration: The session ends with the sound of the chimes. After the singing session, there’s time for reflection about your experience. You might share your feelings or insights that came up, helping to integrate the healing into your life.  I will share any intuitive insights that I noticed, as well.

A group experience looks like this:

We gather in a small group, sitting in chairs.

1. Connection: We begin by giving ourselves some calming breaths together.

2. Intention Setting:  Each participant may share their intention, or what they are hoping to get out of the experience.

3. Setting the Stage:  I will talk briefly about how our singing together will work.

4. Vocal Experience:  I will play chimes, as we breathe together. Then I will start us off with one long singing tone. I will encourage you to join in with simple sounds, such as humming or singing vowel sounds. We will listen to each other, and blend our voices, creating a beautiful tapestry of sound.  It is an opportunity to practice letting go of judgment of ourselves and others. As we progress, we may experiment with other sounds, or other ways of blending together.

5. Silence: As the experience unfolds, participants are gently led into moments of silence, allowing the vibrations of their collective voice to settle in. This quiet space fosters a profound connection to oneself and to each other, as everyone feels seen and heard.

6. Integration:  We end the session with the sound of the chimes. We feel a sense of openness and connection with ourselves and with the others in the group. Participants may share their experience of the session, and what they are taking away from this time together.

Overall, vocal sound healing can be deeply nurturing and transformative, offering an opportunity for connection, relaxation, and healing through the power of sound.

I offer one-on-one sessions on Saturdays at The Healing House. Here’s the link for booking for that:  https://BookwithSusan.as.me/?appointmentType=63333568

Or join me for a small group sound healing experience in December:  https://BookwithSusan.as.me/?appointmentType=67516204

Let It Be

By Susan Temple, MA, BCC, ACEP

We all tend to have ideas about how others should behave.  It’s worth taking a look at these expectations, because they can cause us disappointment and frustration at best and make us miserable at worst.  Here’s an example from my life. 

I have two stepdaughters whom I love dearly.  I married their dad when they were four and six, so I was very involved in their lives as they were growing up. We were close.

As they grew up and moved out into the world, there were often long stretches of time when I didn’t hear from them very much. And, every time they moved to a new apartment, they didn’t give me their new address until I asked for it. I couldn’t understand this, as it was different from the way my family of origin did things. I believed that a kid who loved her mom would keep her informed. I felt hurt and sad and frustrated.

Brené Brown offers a very helpful question: “What is the story I am telling myself?” The story I was telling myself was that they didn’t care very much about me, and I wasn’t very important to them. But was that the truth?

I read Rhonda Britten’s book, Fearless Living, and I learned about expectations.  It was my expectations that were making me miserable, not the behavior of my kids.  I expected to hear from them regularly, and I expected to be informed of big life events.  And they were just living their own lives, doing things the way that felt right to them. And, I had never talked to them about it, or asked if they would be willing to do things differently.

I basically had three options:

1. I could hold my expectation that they should do things differently, and feel all the negative feelings around that.

2. I could accept that this is just their way and refrain from thinking it means anything in particular, letting go of expectations and judgment around it. 

3. I could talk to them and ask if they would be willing to make a change.

I eventually decided that there was really nothing wrong with the way they were doing things, it just wasn’t my way, and I let go of those expectations. It took time. I had to pay attention and notice when I was “in expectation” and make a choice to think differently about it.  

I enjoy my relationships with them more since I did that, because I’m not expecting things to be different.  I enjoy them as they are. I enjoy our communications when we have them, and then I let it be. I don’t ruminate about it being different. It’s great.

Think about your life and your expectations of others. Ask yourself, “Is this a realistic expectation, or am I expecting the other person to think and behave the way I would?  What is the story I am telling myself?”

And, if you’d like to shift some of your expectations, tapping can help.