By Debbie Zuckerman, Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach
As I write, tens of thousands are experiencing the trauma of loss of property, community, and safety due to the fires in California. They are in sheer survival mode, focused on basic needs like shelter, food, and water. People may be grieving the loss of loved ones. They may feel emotions like anger, frustration, confusion, shock, anxiety, sadness, overwhelm, and numbness. Like me, you may have loved ones who are going through this nightmare, and may feel helpless as you watch the events on the news or text them endlessly to check in.
How does one keep their nervous system regulated when life has been turned upside down? How do you make critical and logical decisions when in fight-flight-freeze mode? These are questions I am pondering as I witness my family and Los Angeles county residents go through this unimaginable upheaval.
In times of suffering, when one’s catastrophic thoughts are actually true, how do you cope?
What comes to mind is the practice of compassion. Compassion meets suffering where it is and acknowledges the truth of the situation. Consider affirmations such as:
“This is my worst-case scenario coming true, and I will take it one day at a time.”
“I am suffering and can overcome this.”
“I am not alone in this and have others to help me through.”
Allowing space to validate and feel your emotions can be difficult, yet is also necessary for healing. Energetic connection with one’s community, even if it is physically gone, is essential to well-being and survival. Self-compassion and compassion for others are restorative measures to bring a sense of belonging and grounding in difficult times.
Breathwork, tapping, healing touch, and other nervous system regulation practices will not reverse the destruction caused by the fires. However, they are reliable, evidence-based tools to help you access inner strength, resilience, and hope during times of outer and inner turmoil.
To receive coaching support for your emotional and mental well-being during this challenging time, feel free to schedule a session or contact me at debbie@centerpiecewellness.com.